Happy Birthday to me! 45 things I’ve learned in my 45 years!

August 8, 1972 was a wonderful day in history for it was the day that yours truly was born :-).

I know, I know …I can’t really be 45 years old right? I look way too young for that :-).

Alas, I am indeed truly 45 years old today.  So, to celebrate my 45 years, I am going to make a list of 45 things I have learned through those years.

Here we go:

  1.  1972 – YAY….I learned how to breathe and eat! (Good things to know for the rest of my life ;-))
  2.  1973 –  I learned to walk & talk (trust me, people that know me will say that once I learned how to talk, I never stopped!)
  3.  1974 – I learned how to read and write (and I still love doing both)
  4.  1975 –  I learned how to dress myself (very important life skill!)   
  5.  1976 – I learned how totally awesome Saturday Morning Cartoons were (Tom and Jerry, Woody Woodpecker, Scooby Doo oh yeah!)
  6.  1977 – I learned that school was fun (1/2 day Kindergarten woohoo!)
  7.  1978 – I learned that I don’t like Catholic School uniforms
  8.  1979 – I learned that Alzheimer’s is heartbreaking condition and confusing (for a 7-year-old).
  9.  1980 –    I learned that I love singing…thanks to Sister Mary Joice at St Brendan’s in the Bronx!
  10.  1981 – I learned that sometimes families don’t stay together – that lesson hurt.
  11.  1982 – I learned that people, even the ones that love you, can disappoint you – another one that hurt a lot.
  12.  1983 – I learned about death.  During this year I lost my grandfather & an Uncle. It was the first time death struck somebody close to me.
  13.  1984 – I learned that some kids can be so cruel, unfortunately, I was teased & bullied a lot
  14.  1985 – I learned that many people will judge you by what you look like.
  15.  1986 – I learned how to forgive people that I love because we all make mistakes.
  16.  1987 –  I learned how to tease my hair with Aquanet!!  More importantly, though, I learned how truly important it is to have close friends.
  17.  1988 –  I learned that I really enjoyed when people confided in me & asked me for help.  This was the start of my desire to be a Psychologist.
  18.  1989 – I learned that life can be exciting and scary at the same time.
  19.  1990 – I learned that life does indeed go on, even if you fail at something that seems extremely important at the time.
  20.  1991 – I learned that if you want something in life, you need to work for it yourself! The more you want it the harder you will work for it.
  21.  1992 –  I learned that having a good boss is a blessing!
  22.  1993 – I learned to never leave a loved one without saying goodbye & that you love them.  Seeing them again is never promised, anything can happen at the drop of a hat.    (RIP Dad – I miss you)
  23.  1994 – I learned that listening to people & taking any knowledge available to me is a great way to move up in the corporate world.
  24.  1995 – I learned that people come in many different personalities and each type of personality needs to be interacted with in a different way.  This is probably one of the biggest & most important lessons I have ever learned in my life.
  25.  1996 –  I learned what it feels like to be truly loved by somebody. 
  26.  1997 – I learned that a low – cost casual wedding in the park is awesome. I never understood wasting so much money on fancy weddings.
  27.  1998 – I learned that struggling in life is so much easy when you go through it with somebody you love.
  28.  1999 – I learned that we all choose our attitudes towards life each & every day!
  29.  2000 – I learned that there is no way to explain the overwhelming love that filled me when I held my gorgeous little girl. 
  30.  2001 – I learned once again that life is fragile & we are never promised another day.  Let people know that you love them!
  31.  2002 – I learned how important it is to take care of yourself so you can continue to take care of your loved ones.
  32.  2003 – I learned once again the overwhelming love for a baby! 
  33.  2004 – I learned that living without friends and family nearby is really difficult, but I also learned that sometimes you meet great friends in unexpected places.
  34.  2005 – I learned that a parent should always trust their instincts.
  35.  2006 –  I learned a lot about ADHD, Autism & ODD – much more than I wanted to know.
  36.  2007 –  I learned that I had a voice & I needed to use it to speak up for my child.
  37.  2008 – I learned how truly important it is to educate myself on public schools & what they can do for a special needs child
  38. 2009 – I learned that prayer is one of the best ways to work through some really difficult times.
  39.  2010 –  I learned that not everybody is going to like me all the time & that is ok.
  40.  2011 –  I learned how important it is for people to take care of each other.  Donating time, services and/or money is a necessity.
  41.  2012 – I learned that everything happens for a reason even if you don’t have any idea what it is at the time.
  42.  2013 – I learned that mental health affects an entire family, not just the person diagnosed, but I also learned that love & acceptance can help keep the family strong.
  43.  2014 – I learned that my kids are growing up way too quickly! 
  44.  2015 – I learned that no matter how hard you try, you just can’t please some people and that’s their problem, not mine.
  45.  2016 – I learned to finally believe in myself & fully trust God.

What have you learned in life?



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38 thoughts on “Happy Birthday to me! 45 things I’ve learned in my 45 years!”

  1. This list is great! And you don’t look 45 (not that being 45 is a bad thing- I just turned 40). I really want to do this for myself now.

    1. Thanks Kamie, you are very sweet! It’s funny that you say you want to do it for yourself now, because the night I wrote this my daughters friend (17) who is staying with us right now, thought it was so cool that she did her own list of 17 things she has learned & she said she will add to it each year! I was so happy about that!

  2. This is a great idea. Thank you for sharing! I love that your list is a mix of lighter things (because Saturday morning cartoons really were the bomb, weren’t they?) and heavier thing (we never get over loss, that’s for sure.) Thanks for inspiring me!

    1. Hi Rachel! Thanks! You should do it! As I was writing this post, my 14-year-old son & my daughter’s friend (17-year-old) both did it that night too. They are each going to add 1 more lesson learned to it on each birthday!

  3. Great lessons! I learned many of these about the same time you did. I’m 42. Hair teasing, I’m looking at you. Life isn’t always easy, but I am so glad to have these moments with my loved ones every day. You are right; things can change in the blink of an eye. Thanks for the list!

  4. This is such a fun list! I’ve learned that there are some things that can’t be changed and that doing everything right and by-the-book isn’t a guarantee of success and also to roll with the punches (probably the most imporant thing to learn, really).

  5. This was amazing! What a great idea to go back in time. Everything is a learning lesson, even if it hurts.

    1. Thanks Carmen. Exactly! no point in learning a lesson if we’re not going to hang on to them & remember them right?

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